Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Is Change Good?

I never wanted this day to come. And yet, I knew that eventually it would. Our best friends of the past eight years are moving tomorrow.

These are the friends that you click with the moment you meet.
These are the friends that, once you start talking about what you have in common, you are blown away and CONVINCED that you must have been separated at birth because there are too many parallels to be coincidence.
These are the friends that you are dying to meet where all of you get along- not just the wife and the wife, but ALL of you.
These are the friends that were your cul de sac neighbors when you bought your first house and they brought over brownies to welcome you into the ward.
These are the friends that had their first daughter 3 months before you had your first daughter.
These are the friends that you not only wish, but dream, that you could build a bridge from your house to their's.
These are the friends that you call when you need an egg or almond extract or a ladder- and then you keep the ladder for like 2 months.
These are the friends that move with you when you move to a city 30 miles away, and still your houses are within 2 minutes of each other.
These are the friends where you spend the night at their house because your a/c is not on in your brand new house yet.
These are the friends that have a son 4 months after you have your second daughter.
These are the friends that forgive you when you act stupid.
These are the friends that don't judge you.
These are the friends that you share milestones with.
These are the friends that have a daughter 18 months after your first son is born.
These are the friends that you trade babysitting with on a weekly basis.
These are the friends that you make extra dinner for.
These are the friends that you call and say, "We have chicken- what do you have? Let's combine and have dinner."
These are the friends that you call when your tire blows out and your battery dies and they come and jump start your car.
These are the friends that say, "Here, I'm done with my maternity clothes. Do you want 'em?"
These are the friends that support you in your calling and come and help with every move.
These are the friends that golf with you.
These are the friends that don't judge you because of your lack of organization.
These are the friends that you look at and want to be like.
These are the friends that let you take their baby to Relief Society while they play the piano in Primary.
These are the friends that are your daughter's nursery teacher.
These are the friends that have the number one chocolate chip cookie recipe on the planet.
These are the friends that come over and help bless your sick child at a moments notice, in the dark of night. And then, return the next night to bless the next one.
These are the friends that invite you to their parent's cabin.
These are the friends that have an awesome garden and they give you gardening tips.
These are the friends that have a son that your youngest daughter wants to marry.
These are the friends that you confide in.
These are the friends you go to the park with.
These are the friends that step in to help whenever help is needed.
These are the friends that take care of your children the same way you would.
These are the friends that become more than friends.
These are the friends that are FAMILY.
These are the friends you are going to miss terribly...

8 comments:

Ruth P said...

Steph, your post makes me want to cry! We do have friends like that and it is so sad when they move away (or we move away). I will be thinking about you tomorrow.

Shannon said...

Hi Steph- I know those friends. They're moving up here closer to me, but your post makes me wish they were moving next door (there is a house for sale next door if you want it!). Give them all a big hug from us and come up and visit sometime. We'll take you all!

Jessica said...

Hey Stephanie! I found your blog through Carolyn's. I am so glad you have a blog--they are so fun!! Ours is: theklips.blogspot.com

It does stink when your best friends move--I have never really gotten over the Martuscello's moving last year and am still begging them to move back!!

uniquelynat said...

i don't know how you could write this post. i didn't know they are moving. i am crying right now just reading. because after all these are the friends that are not only your friends....they're my friends too! and we all know who you are talking about (& can picture) the moment you start a story about. because they are the kind of friends that once YOU become friends with them they are suddenly friends with the rest of your family as well. tell them we'll miss them too. and that we love them!

Sarah said...

It's the best chocolate chip recipe I've ever had too. My daughter also wants to marry their son. We've called for those blessings in the middle of the night, and they were always willingly given. I'm not always sure who I am more excited to talk to - Heidi or Elizabeth! My only solace in leaving these friends was that I could visit everytime I went to visit my mom. It's crummy that only 2 months after I leave that I can't even see them in Phoenix. But it's been two months, and we can still talk about our children's obsession over Camp Rock, and the teacher cravings at Back to School time. There are some people who you just know - you will always be friends. We were blessed to have made such wonderful friends!

Sandi said...

Steph, I had a hard time reading your words. My heart was breaking because the WARD is truly going to miss these friends! Just like we are truly missing those who moved to El Paso (please post blog Sarah)...but one thing I am so grateful for! We will have these friends for Eternity and associate with them again. I can't wait! How cool that will be!

Heidi said...

Hi Steph. We finally had a moment to sit down and read this post. Neither of us made it through the first line. You are very sweet to post all the fun and special memories we have made over the past 8 years. You truly are an extension of our family. We have been so blessed to have made such close friends and we are truly missing you and all of you that took a minute to post back.
Steph you have always been an inspiration to me of the mom I hope to some day become. I could not have done half of my mom jobs without you on the sideline cheering me on and supporting me. I know you will always be there no matter what and I'll always be there for you with a fresh batch of my signature chocolate chip cookies. We love you guys!

Mechelle said...

*sniff**sniff*
I was so sad to hear that they were moving, and I hope that Zach got to say goodbye to Hunter. We will cherish them forever. :)